What’s good my loves? Hope you’re enjoying a positively marvelous day.
Yo! I’ve been finding myself telling white people lately that “you can,” and it’s making me stop to think, like really? Y’all ancestors pretty much colonized the entire world and forced beliefs on whole cultures but you really be limiting yourself to what you think you can and cannot do? Allow me to explain:
One night I went out dancing in LA. I have no problem going places by myself as I enjoy my own company, but people usually end up approaching and talking to me anyway. On this particular night, I found myself on the dance floor grooving along to the tunes the DJ was spinning at a Whiskey Bar. I noticed an older black man leading his white female date towards my direction and I saw her see me then start slow down. I overheard her say to her date, “Oh no, I can’t…” I honestly didn’t even hear the rest of what she said. Could have been, “Oh no, I can’t be seen dancing next to her,” or whatever, it doesn’t matter. She was probably thinking, I’m too old, too uncoordinated, too uncool to be here. So, without missing a beat, I grab her hands and pulled her out to the middle of the dance floor to dance with me saying, “Yes you can.” She stared at me, mouth agape and completely stunned. She embarrassingly repeated to her date, “Do you think she heard me? Did she hear what I said?” Susan, I didn’t have to hear you, but you need to hear yourself. Yes you can!
Another scenario I love is when white ladies ask me about my hair. “How did you get your hair like that?” My response, “I bought it that way.” Then all of the sudden they act as if they’re not as amazed because it’s fake hair. “Well I could never do that,” they reply. “Yes, you can,” I say confidently. Sure, you might look ridiculous and I’m in no position to tell you this Becky, but guess what, you can still look just like me if you really tried. I understand people wanting what they can’t have, but even when I tell them they can do their hair like mine, they’re convinced they could never pull it off. Funny, when we wear protective hairstyles to avoid the European beauty trends that have become so popular, people are still so curious and want the same thing for themselves. These things will never make sense to me, but then again, I grew up in Orange County. Makes me think that I have a very skewed grasp of reality.
So what do I do about it? Should I change who I am, dwell about my upbringing, or do I change my environment? Be the catalyst instead of the inhibitor. Whether you think so or not, you’re right. You can! We can! I say let’s invest in ourselves to bridge our communities for the greater good. We all face these similar struggles, but if your first instinct is to doubt your capabilities, then how are you really going to grow out of your comfort zone? Allow me to ask again. How are you planning on growing out of your comfort zone if your first instinct is to doubt your capabilities? And here we are.
I have this thing about sleep.
I like, love it.
I love sleep so much.
I like dream about it at night.
Especially in the day time. By the water front Zzzzs all day club. Don’t forget tea time.
Reminds me of those precious loving moments of clarity we get to experience so sparingly. I’m talking bout that me time. Queen Bee in her prime. Like right now. Me time.
But you see, I can’t sleep on this. After all, we’re limitless beings and we should act as such by continuing to love ourselves. If there’s any good from the passing of Nipsey Hussle, it’s that it opened up the eyes to a lot of people who were unaware of the positive impact that this beautiful soul left. His energy remains and the marathon continues.
Turn a negative into a positive 💙
#staywild #followwildthing #greeneyedblackgirl #wildones🐾
Today I am grateful for:
• More faith in the process of learning to love myself
• Angelique Smith & Ermias Joseph Asghedom
• Friends who make the effort to put me on to certain things they think I might enjoy
What do you blame yourself for?
I have to say, I really blame myself for not allowing myself the space and the freedom to mourn in peace. We all grieve differently, but sometimes you just need a good healthy cry. I owe that to myself every once in a while.
What would make today great?
If I could put more energy towards investing in my future and read on building a financial foundation.
Free my mind and reprogram it to be limitless.
What amazing things happened today?
1. I got the chance to experience the feeling of a sore body from physical activity again after taking a break from my Zumba fitness routine.
2. I got complimented on my hair by a random customer and he made me smile by reminding me to stay hydrated.
3. I’m learning tips and techniques to release negative thoughts and not react from triggers.
How could I have made today even better?
If I could, I would have liked to spend more time creating memories outdoors with friends and pick up some gardening skills.
I am enough and what I do is enough.
I love myself. I value myself. I trust myself.
I am a powerful, radiant, magnificent being of light.
I permit myself to fully enjoy everything I do.
BONUS: What do I plan on accomplishing tomorrow?
Taking in a moment of gratitude and appreciation for all the willpower I have accumulated in my life thus far.