MAYDAY!

Yo! Look what I just googled:

Mayday. Mayday! Help me…it’s May.

You made it, welcome back! What up fam? Hope all is well with you. As for myself, I really just had a moment thinking about all of those precious lives lost to suicide and the stigma associated with getting the help that we need to thrive in our society. May, of course is mental health awareness month, and as much as it saddens me to think about, it also really makes me appreciate my beautiful mind and how I’ve learned to deal with depression and anxiety. I stay blessed and am very fortunate to not live in places like Alaska or Seattle with gloomy weather for a good portion of the year. Sunshine and warmth are my sanctuary ☀️ I just feel confident by keeping positive and believing things will work out accordingly. They always do, so why stress? All you need is a little faith in yourself and some self love. Believe me, it’s not as easy as it sounds, but it’s totally worth it.

So I gotta ask, how are we doing? It’s okay if you’re not okay. I repeat, it is perfectly alright for you to not be alright. Sit with your feelings. Meditate on them. Even the most uncomfortable ones have lessons to teach you. Just remember not to dwell too long and to move past them. Energy flows better that way. Took me some time, but I have come to understand that life is about the journey, and not the destination. If you don’t appreciate where you’re at now, how do you expect to get to where you want to be?

Knowing all of this, try practicing gratitude as it will attract more positives into your life. Consider the law of attraction.

If you can imagine it in your mind, you CAN experience it in your reality.

Remember to also be patient with yourself my loves. Greatness doesn’t come overnight. Even if you feel fear, have the courage to step forward and embrace it by using daily positive rituals to keep you focused on you.

What are you waiting for? Start today. Start right now! Get motivated to live the life you want to live. If it’s easier said than done, then seek help. Whether it be family, friends, or even a therapist or healer, there are so many resources at your fingertips ready to get you feeling like you again. All you have to do is believe you are worthy; and you are. Even if you don’t believe me, I know it’s true.

So there!

If you need some tricks to grow from triggers, I got you.

When you have unhealed wounds and you feel the need to pop off, try this instead:

  • Feel it. Take a deep breath & pause 🌬
  • Observe (don’t react) even though this will feel highly uncomfortable 🧐
  • Re-program the subconscious. Affirm: “I am grateful for this emotion and what it can teach me 😌
  • Watch as you form a new relationship with emotions as a form of feedback 👀
  • Release. Move forward 👣

Remember always to love yourself. You’re beautiful. I hope qui aide (that helps)

#staywild #followwildthing #wildones🐾

Today I am grateful for:

More time to learn about volunteering for counseling and therapy

• The “Help” function in Microsoft Excel

• Moments of solitude to clear my thoughts

Morning Reminders

AM Meditation:

What saddens you?

For me, the thought of dying alone or leaving this world without knowing a true love or being able to pass on my legacy would be pretty tragic.

What would make today great?

If I could discover different mediums of African art.

DAILY CHALLENGE

Release all the sadness and loss, to let the pain flow away

Afternoon Stretches

What amazing things happened today?

1. I finally finished a project at work I had been working on for over a month.

2. I was able to take some time to organize and clean my room from moving recently.

3. I’m learning the importance and the impact of racism on the sexual reproductive health of women of color.

How could I have made today even better?

If I could, I would have liked to spend more time creating a treatment for the latest film idea I have.

PM Meditation:

  • I love and accept myself just as I am.
  • I deserve love, health, happiness and prosperity.
  • I give and receive love effortlessly & unconditionally.
  • I feel stronger, more alive and energized each day.

Evening Affirmations

Evening Stretches

BONUS: What do I plan on accomplishing tomorrow?

If I could, I would like to attend my local farmers market to pick up some produce and create a plant-based meal prep for the week.

Follow me for more of that good good ! Until next time loves.

💚 Your Friendly Neighborhood Home Girl

What Can You Do When You’re About to Lose It?

Listen, I get it. Everyone gets frustrated. We lose our patience. Someone keeps sending passive aggressive emails. One thing goes wrong and the next thing you know, we’re in a mood. We then blow up on our kids and they can’t even comprehend why. It’s an everyday struggle to stay motivated when you feel like you’re being pulled in every direction. We’ve all been there before.

I’m here to tell you that there are other options. Feeling negativity and hate from others can affect your mood over time. That is why it is so important to protect yourself and your energy. By re-examining your environment and going in prepared, you may be able to help yourself or another person out of their funk and help your relationship as a result. So, the moment before we snap, consider a few tips to stop you from affecting your mood.

The next time you’re about to lose your cool around your kids, friends, your coworkers, or even customers, try this instead:

1. Breathe deeply. Sometimes just a couple of deep breaths can defuse an entire situation. Before you react, let go of that air in your lungs and breathe in and our for a moment or two while you compose yourself.

2. Pray for wisdom. Go on, set out your intentions for at least some kind of understanding of what is actually going on. Guidance is important in these situations. Sometimes what seems to be the cause of the bad mood isn’t actually what’s really going on. Try and take a step back from the situation and attempt to determine what could be the problem.

3. Be the benevolent boss. A spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down, so this should be an easy reminder for you to be kind. Nobody wants to hear bad things spewing from your mouth. Practice using kindness from flattery to humor, but that depends entirely on the person’s personality. Try to validate how they’re feeling and try not to take it personally.

4. Examine your expectations. What do you aim to achieve out of this? If your desired result is peace, reassess yourself and how the situation is being handled. If you must get to the bottom of the problem, you can do it in a gentle way.

5. Stick to the boundaries. Know your limits, and set your boundaries accordingly. As long as you stick to them and stay consistent, there is no confusion as to where you stand on the matter. Being a good friend, parent, or employee doesn’t mean you always have to take the brunt of their bad moods. Protect yourself by deciding not to put up with it anymore, and sometimes you also just need to get some space from a situation.

6. State the consequences. If there is no justification as to why, the behavior may continue without a lesson being learned. Set consequences and state them so that they are understandable.

7. Say, “I need,” not, “You are.” When you put the emphasis on yourself, the other person might feel less threatened. Staying positive or saying something nice to the person who is in a bad mood may lift them out of their funk. It can also help bring you closer together during this unhappy time.

8. Think long-term. Understand this isn’t forever. Fortunately, bad moods come and go. Keep this in mind when you are in one or you’re dealing with someone who is in one. Knowing that there is a light at the end of the tunnel may help you get through the situation.

9. Ask forgiveness. Remove yourself from the situation if the person’s behavior is getting out of line or you can’t handle it anymore. You can tell the person, “I see that you are really upset about something, and I’m sorry for that. However, I need to walk away for a minute.” Keep in mind that you can choose your level of involvement and sometimes it is best to just ignore the person.

10. Say, “I love you too much to let you act that way.” Everyone needs a little reassurance every once in a while. You likely know the person well enough to understand how to handle them when they get in their mood. You may know that they want you to sympathize with them instead of giving advice. It is in your best interest to go into the situation prepared and doing what has worked in the past, but if you are unsure this will help, prepare yourself for how the situation could get worse.

You can do it fam! I believe in you. Handle those tough moments with wisdom and grace, and I guarantee you’ll come out on top. Good luck out there!

Turn a ➖ into a ➕

Peace.

What’s good my loves? Hope you’re enjoying a positively marvelous day.

Yo! I’ve been finding myself telling white people lately that “you can,” and it’s making me stop to think, like really? Y’all ancestors pretty much colonized the entire world and forced beliefs on whole cultures but you really be limiting yourself to what you think you can and cannot do? Allow me to explain:

One night I went out dancing in LA. I have no problem going places by myself as I enjoy my own company, but people usually end up approaching and talking to me anyway. On this particular night, I found myself on the dance floor grooving along to the tunes the DJ was spinning at a Whiskey Bar. I noticed an older black man leading his white female date towards my direction and I saw her see me then start slow down. I overheard her say to her date, “Oh no, I can’t…” I honestly didn’t even hear the rest of what she said. Could have been, “Oh no, I can’t be seen dancing next to her,” or whatever, it doesn’t matter. She was probably thinking, I’m too old, too uncoordinated, too uncool to be here. So, without missing a beat, I grab her hands and pulled her out to the middle of the dance floor to dance with me saying, “Yes you can.” She stared at me, mouth agape and completely stunned. She embarrassingly repeated to her date, “Do you think she heard me? Did she hear what I said?” Susan, I didn’t have to hear you, but you need to hear yourself. Yes you can!

Another scenario I love is when white ladies ask me about my hair. “How did you get your hair like that?” My response, “I bought it that way.” Then all of the sudden they act as if they’re not as amazed because it’s fake hair. “Well I could never do that,” they reply. “Yes, you can,” I say confidently. Sure, you might look ridiculous and I’m in no position to tell you this Becky, but guess what, you can still look just like me if you really tried. I understand people wanting what they can’t have, but even when I tell them they can do their hair like mine, they’re convinced they could never pull it off. Funny, when we wear protective hairstyles to avoid the European beauty trends that have become so popular, people are still so curious and want the same thing for themselves. These things will never make sense to me, but then again, I grew up in Orange County. Makes me think that I have a very skewed grasp of reality.

So what do I do about it? Should I change who I am, dwell about my upbringing, or do I change my environment? Be the catalyst instead of the inhibitor. Whether you think so or not, you’re right. You can! We can! I say let’s invest in ourselves to bridge our communities for the greater good. We all face these similar struggles, but if your first instinct is to doubt your capabilities, then how are you really going to grow out of your comfort zone? Allow me to ask again. How are you planning on growing out of your comfort zone if your first instinct is to doubt your capabilities? And here we are.

I have this thing about sleep.

I like, love it.

I love sleep so much.

I like dream about it at night.

Especially in the day time. By the water front Zzzzs all day club. Don’t forget tea time.

Reminds me of those precious loving moments of clarity we get to experience so sparingly. I’m talking bout that me time. Queen Bee in her prime. Like right now. Me time.

But you see, I can’t sleep on this. After all, we’re limitless beings and we should act as such by continuing to love ourselves. If there’s any good from the passing of Nipsey Hussle, it’s that it opened up the eyes to a lot of people who were unaware of the positive impact that this beautiful soul left. His energy remains and the marathon continues.

Turn a negative into a positive 💙

#staywild #followwildthing #greeneyedblackgirl #wildones🐾

Today I am grateful for:

More faith in the process of learning to love myself

• Angelique Smith & Ermias Joseph Asghedom

• Friends who make the effort to put me on to certain things they think I might enjoy

Morning Affirmations

AM Meditation:

What do you blame yourself for?

I have to say, I really blame myself for not allowing myself the space and the freedom to mourn in peace. We all grieve differently, but sometimes you just need a good healthy cry. I owe that to myself every once in a while.

What would make today great?

If I could put more energy towards investing in my future and read on building a financial foundation.

DAILY CHALLENGE

Free my mind and reprogram it to be limitless.

Afternoon Workouts

Afternoon Stretches

What amazing things happened today?

1. I got the chance to experience the feeling of a sore body from physical activity again after taking a break from my Zumba fitness routine.

2. I got complimented on my hair by a random customer and he made me smile by reminding me to stay hydrated.

3. I’m learning tips and techniques to release negative thoughts and not react from triggers.

How could I have made today even better?

If I could, I would have liked to spend more time creating memories outdoors with friends and pick up some gardening skills.

PM Meditation:

I am enough and what I do is enough.

I love myself. I value myself. I trust myself.

I am a powerful, radiant, magnificent being of light.

I permit myself to fully enjoy everything I do.

Evening affirmations

Evening Stretches

BONUS: What do I plan on accomplishing tomorrow?

Taking in a moment of gratitude and appreciation for all the willpower I have accumulated in my life thus far.

Follow me for updates on my journey towards self love. Catch ya later!

~Your Friendly Neighborhood Home Girl 💚

Farmers Markets & Collecting Seeds 4 Change

Gotta love spring time 🌼 thanks for sharing sis!

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Orange County, California is #blessed with handfuls of healthy people pushing eachother towards good lifestyle habits.

I have found that seeds of wellbeing are easy to pick up, just by living in California or areas with close proximity to nature.

Journal #3 April 1st

Consider how now your Daily exercise habits are made easy due to this environment. Offer gratitude by using familiar resources, the neighborhood track, my Gardent, state parks and trails which I intend to explore while learn about native plants. I will #Hussle harder to spread seeds of

h🌍pe.

🧚‍♀️@followlilwing

Getting Outdoor time is not easy breezy for some of #US. We all care about someone, what about their level of wellness in life?

WHEN we must stay, work & travel outside our ideal healthy environments HOW DO we coexist then spread the love of good choices?

🐝How does one thrive in a new place…

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Your Friendly Neighborhood Home Girl’s Tips for a Successful Week

Dear Young Black Professional,

Kudos to you for taking the necessary steps to having a great work week. You’re thinking about your future-self, and why shouldn’t you? That is one thing I believe more of us need to commit to when we finally decide we are putting our foot down and in the right direction towards reaching our highest potential.

People don’t decide their futures, they decide their habits and their habits decide their future.

Stop! Read that again.

You are the only one limiting yourself from greatness. So, I just wanted to say I feel honored that you are utilizing me as well as the amazing community of beautiful people YBPOC has brought together to rejuvenate the black experience in Orange County.

Again, thank you from the bottom of my heart for giving this blog a read. I hope you love each post and find them to be a useful resource for betterment as much as we do. If you ever have any questions or suggestions on topics you want covered, please feel free to reach out to our collective of millennials. We will do our very best to take care of you and get your questions answered!

Your Friendly Neighborhood Home Girl,

Jenevieve “J” Hutchison

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“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

It’s 2019 fam. You owe it to yourself to be the very best version of yourself. Here’s the harsh reality about the world we live in: Jobs these days seem to want you to neglect your kids and families, forget your health, stay energized without getting tired, and be on time. So my question for you is, “What does the first hour of your day look like?” Do you have a powerful morning routine to set your day up for success, or does your morning routine look more like a fire drill? 

  • You scramble to find work clothes
  • Skip breakfast or gobble down fruits quickly
  • Anxiously rush out the door hoping you will arrive to work on time

Maybe it’s about time to evaluate your schedule to make sure that the start of your day is more calm and goes smoothly? The morning is the time and place before all responsibilities of the day take over. Before email, work meetings, and social obligations, the morning is the space before anything “ruined” your day. Before you dive into your crazy work week, allow yourself to take a moment and prepare yourself for what you’re about to get into. After all, if you could see what’s coming, you wouldn’t stress about what’s happening. When you become aware, you gain a slight edge over any situation that may come your way and have more of a chance for coming out on top. I bet you’re wondering where do I even begin?

The important thing you want to do is develop a healthy routine to get you on the right track. How can we do this, you ask? By utilizing mindfulness! Are you mindful? If you have no idea what I’m talking about, you’re in luck. Mindfulness can be cultivated into a formal practice like meditation, and you can even begin today, right this very moment if you’d like. When you’re mindful, you achieve the ability to pay attention to the present moment, with curiosity and without judgement. The benefits of mindfulness include:

– Increased empathy and compassion

– Improved immune functioning

– Improved sleep

– Greater focus and concentration

– Reduced stress and anxiety

So what are you waiting for? Start now! By being mindful, you are making the choice to set yourself up for success. I recently started incorporating this into my daily routine and what really helped me adapt these mindful techniques is something called The Five Minute Journal. The best part is, you don’t even have to go out and buy this thing. All you have to do is keep a journal by your bedside and stay committed to the process. By jotting down my thoughts and thinking positively with this simple structured format, I found it much easier to start and end each day with gratitude, which in turn made me feel like I could take on the entire world!

When you wake up in the morning, you are fresh and have the precious opportunity in the first few minutes to set the tone for the rest of the day. So, make it count! With this short morning routine, your life will quickly change. It’s really quite simple:

  1. Wake up – Write down in your journal 3 things you are grateful for. Ask yourself, “What would make today great?” Recite affirmations for a little morning motivation. Drink a glass of water and make your bed. Try out these affirmations: I am a successful professional in my work setting. My business is growing everyday. My income increases daily. I am so grateful that I get to work when I want, where I want, and with whom I want. I am in the presence of great influential men and women in my workplace.
  1. Get in the zone – Quiet your mind and center yourself with a 10-minute meditation. If you’re new to this practice, try using an app like “Headspace” to keep you focused.
  2. Get moving – If you can do some yoga poses or stretching, this will really help you to get the blood flowing. Check out the “7 Minute Workout” app for simple daily workout routines. It’s only 7 minutes, so you have no excuse. Imagine 7 minutes in heaven. The lungs, digestive system, as well as muscles and joints will all benefit from practicing Sun Salutations. (image source: https://www.destressmonday.org/sun-salutation/)Image result for sun salutation
  3. Put the right food in your body – Your breakfast should be between 250-300 calories and include fruits, veggies and protein. If time is of the essence, try preparing overnight oats the night before, meal prepping, and even protein shakes or smoothies could save you time when you’re on the go. I always try to keep some healthy snacks in my bag if I ever get any midday cravings. Be sure to enjoy low-calorie snacks throughout the day between meals and drink lots of water to stay healthy, hydrated, and glowed up. Think about what supplements, multivitamins and probiotics you can incorporate into your diet as well to ensure your body is getting everything it needs to keep you going.
  4. Get ready – Shower, wash your face, brush your teeth (preferably fluoride-free and cruelty-free natural products without all those harmful chemicals), and don’t forget to floss.
  5. Get inspired – While grooming (hair & makeup), I like to listen to music, audio books, or podcasts depending on my mood. This boosts my morale way more than watching the news. The goal is to think positively before you get to work. Try to always put moisturizer and SPF on your face 20 minutes prior to heading out of the house.
  6. Get perspective – Think about your intentions for the day. These should be clearly set the night before when you’re planning and executing your evening routine. Write things down or set alarms on your phone if that works for you.
  7. Do something to move you forward – Stay motivated by visualizing accomplishing your goals but also reward yourself once you actually follow through with them. When you take things one day at a time, believe in yourself and surround yourself with positivity, there is no way you can fail.

Lastly, do not forget to love yourself. Seriously, self-love and confidence are some of the most important skills you can acquire in your life! Not only does it make you more attractive both inside and out, but it is simply good for your health and well being. Be self-confident as often as possible, and don’t be so hard on yourself while you’re at it. You are not your job. You are a beautiful human being, so embrace yourself. Be ready for a new chapter to start for you once you are ready to take the first step. Remember, life is an adventure to explore whilst you have fun. It’s time to enjoy your life, it’s time for change. Go for it! Cheers to a successful week.

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