30 – Just Live It

Yo! I’ve been spinning on this planet for 30 years now.

Is that a long time, or is time relative? I’ll let you think about that for a moment…It’s old, isn’t it?! Be honest with me 🙇‍♀️

Alright, enough already….I’ve regained composure. Welcome back! Funny thing about me, I’m beginning to realize that not everyone can handle being around such a free-spirit like myself. This is because everyone has these imaginary boundaries they set for themselves. For some reason, most likely because of my upbringing, I am unaware whenever I am crossing someone else’s boundaries or making things uncomfortable for them. Either that, or I just don’t care as much 🤷‍♀️ Judgement is another one of those things for me, as I just don’t care enough to judge someone for who they are or the circumstances they find themselves in. Now if you’ve met me IRL, you’re probably thinking to yourself like, “What is she even talking about? She’s not even a little awkward.” Pause for a cause –you may not be experiencing the real wild thing.

Allow me to explain:

I can never tell if someone wants to really get to know me or if they really want to get to know what sleeping with me is like. Real talk. Of course, it doesn’t help that I’m naturally a flirt, but my first world problem is that I crave genuine connections and want to get to know people inside and out –like on some deeper level ish; and I can’t. Terribly shy as a child, I grew up holding in a lot and biting my tongue. Now, I lack the words to say in most interactions because I want to avoid offending anyone with my inappropriate, blatantly honest and blunt demeanor. At least, I’m struggling with this. I might actually enjoy pushing the limits a little and making people feel disturbed sometimes; I think it’s funny, and it’s a fun way to live life.

On that note, how’s life loves? Can we just go up to people and ask them how they’re doing mentally or emotionally already? Check in with each other regularly? When does that point come into play in our existence? I mean, that’s the game, right? Evolution is the survival of the fittest, and here we are at this very point in time. How we doing? Surviving? You good 👍🏽 I’m amazed you even lasted this long. I’m just messing with you… 😬 By the way, thank you for being here! It really wouldn’t be the same without you, just know that.

As I was saying, boundaries; everyone has them. My hope is for more people to stretch their boundaries. Push their fears forward and do the things that scare them most. I guess my question is, how can we know what our boundaries are if we don’t truly know ourselves?

Bingo! That is for you to figure out. Don’t forget to love yourself. Maybe even hug yourself? Try it, I’ll wait.

..Did you do it? 😹 Good. I’m glad. Now that we’re being honest with each other. I’m going to keep it real with you. I don’t hug myself. But who knows, maybe you might like it? I jokingly refer to myself as a try-sexual,” a self-coined phrase meaning I’ll try anything once, as long as it’s something I absolutely have zero desire to be addicted to. If I like it, I much try it again just to make sure. Nothing too hardcore, but sky-diving is something I’ve tried. Definitely don’t want to be addicted to it like those gnarly instructors attached to your back are doing jump after jump each day for a living. Frog legs from the fair and escargot 🐌 on a cruise ship, yes, I’ve tried those before. I’ll pass. I know you’re already thinking about it, but in regards to kinky bedroom stuff (i.e. choking and being tied up) save it, don’t even waste my time. I’m not down. By practicing this mindset, I open myself up to a world of adventures in my own safe environment known as my boundaries.

So just trust me on this one thing, be friends first! It is said that in relationships, lust will eventually die, love will sway, and sexual attraction will come and go. Having the ability to love someone as a friend will keep you together even through the tough times. Now, I want you to consider some of the boundaries you’ve set for yourself. Why were they put in place? Which ones are you dead set on, and which ones are you a little more open-minded about and flexible with? Whatever they might be, live your life my loves!

Just do it.

#staywild #followwildthing #greeneyedblackgirl #wildones🐾

Today I am grateful for:

More faith in myself and in the process

• The rain to help things grow

• Electric cars

AM Meditation:

What do you blame yourself for?

I have to say, I really blame myself for not putting in a ton of effort to keep in touch with my family members, especially during the holidays. I’m the youngest in my immediate family, and I feel like I should be able to look towards my elders for guidance in these family matters. It’s like when one member of the family passes, the bond isn’t as tight-knit or traditional as they used to be, but that isn’t even the case with my family. We just don’t ever plan get togethers at all, and I am considering changing that this year.

What would make today great?

If I could put more energy towards looking into owning property.

DAILY CHALLENGE

Accept the fact that all I need to be is myself to receive the blessings that I desire.

Afternoon Stretches

What amazing things happened today?

1. I got the chance to interact with an individual I truly look up to and admire.

2. I danced in the rain.

3. I’m learning how to better walk away from people and things that do not share my same interests.

How could I have made today even better?

If I could, I would have liked to spend more time creating beats and looking into podcast equipment.

PM Meditation:

I am great.

I am confident.

I can do anything.

I can accomplish anything.

I have a purpose.

I am capable.

I do.

I am ambitious.

I am intelligent.

I am powerful.

Evening affirmations

Evening Stretches

BONUS: What do I plan on accomplishing tomorrow?

Taking in a moment of gratitude and appreciation for all the hardships I’ve endured in my life to get me where I am today.

Follow me for updates on my journey towards self love. Catch ya later!

~Your Friendly Neighborhood Home Girl 💚

It is Never Too Late to Get Your Life Together

“Have the guts to be true to yourself. Nothing more.” ~Robin Sharma

Welcome back! Is it too late for Happy November? It’s good to see you. I’m so glad you made it, and I don’t actually see you. But hear me out, I’m imagining you on the other side of your screen and I just wanted to tell you that you’re beautiful. There! I said it 😌

Anyway, hi! I hope you love yourself. I love you. Also, if you haven’t said that to someone today, I suggest you try it. See what it feels like. Maybe call your mom if you can, and if you can’t then call someone that you love. Tell them you love them. Just do it. I feel like it’s a nice thing to do and you’ll probably feel better once you finally get it over with. If you don’t go through with it, then just forget I said anything.

My brothers

My sisters

My aunties

My cousins

My people.

I feel for you man. Life doesn’t really seem like it’s easy for any of us.

I have a story for you:

This story is set in the 90s and involves my older brother; My big bro, I call him Big Chocolate. I’m Lil’ Chocolate, of course. We’re posted up at daycare in some lady’s house because my beloved single-mother is constantly working to be able to provide for us and get us both where we are today. I have nothing but love and respect for this woman. I learned a lot from her and may have picked up a few naughty habits, but I just wanted to take a moment to thank my mom. There is no one like Athena. Shout out to the moms! You all have one. Cherish your memories together.

Back to the story: My brother and me would play together with the other kids in daycare and on this particular day, my brother was put in timeout. Was he being a bad boy?

Comment below the first thought that came to mind! Why was my brother punished?

It was for…singing. My brother was singing this old school Janet Jackson song called “Funky Big Band.”

The lyrics go like this:

“Got to be real

If you want to hear the

Funky big band

We who knows it feel it”

Funky Big Band, okay? So there we are, singing along to this song we’ve heard a dozens times before from our mom’s cassette tapes. Yes, cassette tapes. We’re in the 90s. So of course you can imagine what our nanny thought she heard my brother say. Now, at this age, yes we know cuss words. We even sang along to a number of songs with explicit lyrics that we probably should not have. Regardless, this song that my brother was singing did not have a bad word in it. Who knows, maybe it wasn’t a popular Janet Jackson song? Either way, it was her word against his, and there was nothing Lil’ chocolate could do to prove her Big’s innocence. She heard what she heard and he was punished. Fin 🔚

Here we are, years later and still not able to fully grasp the magnitude of this concept. So many innocent lives lost due to “he said, she said.” Not to mention the “wrong place at wrong time” nonsense. My opinion is that to be seen as a threat is a difficult spot to be in. So how do we progress? Life just doesn’t seem fair no matter what we do, yet we still rise to the occasion. Stay shining, fam. The power of love is within us all, we just need to tap into it.

Mankind! I honestly can’t figure out who has had it worse in society; the humans, the animals or the actual planet itself that we inhabit? Is it too much to ask for world peace? These feelings that come on strong like a ripple effect, waves of hatred and fear spreading throughout our DNA remind me of oil spilled into the ocean. Like really, there will always be different sides and opinions, which is great for our uniqueness and individuality. Unfortunately, the people who share my blood get killed more frequently in these instances with law enforcement and especially with the use of firearms. So, I’m curious to see if there will be a day when the colored man is not seen a threat in society. These beautiful beasts need not be tamed. Until then, stay up my friends ✌🏽

Today I am grateful for:

More sense of self-worth

• Genuine connections

• Amazon Prime

Morning Stretches

AM Meditation:

What do I blame myself for?

I struggle constantly with not hyping myself up enough. You’ll rarely hear me say I’m the best at anything, and I’m humbled by this. Even as a kid, I found that I had no desire to be the center of attention. Sure, I have confidence, but I struggle with the thought of going overboard with my ego and turning into an attention-seeking narcissist. Thus, I end up dimming my light for fear of seeming like I’m trying too hard. Then I get upset when I know I could have done better. It’s a never-ending cycle, and I’m working on it. Legends don’t become legends by not thinking they’re worthy of being legendary.

What would make today great?

If I could be more consistent with putting my energy towards meal prepping and not going out to eat everyday.

DAILY CHALLENGE

Accept the fact that I have progressed this far and appreciate my journey.

Afternoon Stretches

What amazing things happened today?

1. I was able to find some self care products that I recently ran out of.

2. I looked into my spending habits to start budgeting for the holiday season.

3. I am getting even more comfortable with the new operating system at work as I am answering questions some associates have.

How could I have made today even better?

If I could, I would have liked to spend more time learning how to control my breath while singing.

PM Meditation:

I am inspired.

I am creative.

I am joyful.

I am in control.

I am unique.

I am special.

I am kind.

I am important.

I feel.

Evening Stretches

BONUS: What do I plan on accomplishing tomorrow?

Improving my skill-set and boosting my self love by providing a fun but challenging zumba workout for students in a new fitness class.

📣 You’re a diamond, dear. They can’t break you.

Stay wild #wildones🐾 Don’t forget to #followwildthing your #greeneyedblackgirl Neighborhood Friendly Home Girl!

Until next time my friends. I’m peepin’ a show up in LA tomorrow night. Catch ya later 🦆

New Practices

My peeps! What up? I’m glad you made it! Look, I’m here to tell you, you’re here for a reason. Now, you and only you can determine what that reason is, but let me help you out a little. Everyone is familiar with that feeling deep down inside. That constant beating within our chests that makes us feel alive. I guess you could call it love?

Allow me to explain:

See, I question this notion of love because, believe it or not, I am not fully versed in the emotion …let me back up a little bit.

Hi there! Call me a Wild Thing. I’m here to tell you, that you’re not alone. We all get that feeling deep down in the pit of our stomachs, and can’t quite explain it. Yet, we know it when we feel it. Love, could be described with words such as faith, passion, or lust. Whatever you call it, it’s why we’re here. Just trust me on this.

If you look up, there’s an entire universe and we can’t see it. We’re sure it’s out there, and have we have scientific evidence; proof beyond reasonable doubt! But can we feel it? That’s a lesson for another day, but just know that I have a hard time grasping this concept of love due to the environment in which I was brought up in. Excellent childhood memories, but not so many affectionate gestures within the military household my grandparents raised their daughters (my mom and aunt) or grandchildren (my brother and me) in while drinking and smoking heavily. I feel like I turned out alright, but I’m still learning to heal myself from years of trauma. I think we all are; It’s the human experience.

So ask yourself this, “What do you love?” Me? I love sleeping, I love the beach, I love laughter and jokes. Usually the inappropriate jokes get me, and yes I still find them funny.

And I’m pretty funny — looking 😜 so, I love that about myself.

Now go on, tell me what you love about yourself? Personally, I believe in order to allow someone to love you, you in turn must first learn to love yourself. I mean, that’s why you’re here right? I hope that’s why you’re here. Let me just say, thank you for reading my blog by the way! It really means a lot to me, and please comment below if want any questions answered or topics covered. You are appreciated!

See, I too am on the journey for self love. I’m lost, but I’m hopeful, and I hope you enjoy this path you’re on to health and wellness.

Alright, let me ask you a question:

What are you going to do when opportunity knocks? Are you going to sink, or are you going to swim like a mo-fo? We all have a different goal in mind. You just have to consider yours, and I’m here to help you with that. Just pretend like I’m your cheerleader, because I’m going through it right there along with you. We’re in this journey towards self love together, and I hope we win.

Good luck!

#staywild #followwildthing #wildones🐾

Today I am grateful for:

• More courage to try new things

• Kombucha

• The right to vote

Morning Stretches


AM Meditation:

What am I most afraid of?

Not fully grasping the magnitude and importance of self-worth.

What would make today great?

If I could help out a friend in need.

DAILY CHALLENGE

Let my fears flow away

Afternoon Stretches

What amazing things happened today?

1. I’m getting a little more comfortable with the new operating system at work.

2. I got to break in my new Nike sneakers gifted to me by my thoughtful Zumba students.

3. I got the chance to catch up with my good friend to plan for weekend festivities.

How could I have made today even better?

If I could, I would have liked to learn a tradition passed on by my ancestors and practice speaking French.

PM Meditation:

Embraces past mistakes and turn them into lessons learned.

Evening Stretches

BONUS: What do I plan on accomplishing tomorrow?

If I could, I would like to work on posting my fitness videos to YouTube for submission to different modeling agencies.

Never fear! Your friendly neighborhood black girl is here. Follow me tomorrow for more realness. Catch ya later!

My Happy Place

We are pure cosmic energy. Learn to let go.

#staywild #followwildthing #wildones🐾

Today I am grateful for:

More time developing good habits.

• Travel notices.

• Friendly gas station attendants.

Morning Stretches

AM Meditation:

What attaches you to this world?

For me, connecting with people on a deeper level and knowing my impact is what I wake up in the morning for. I feel like my calling in life is to fully express who I already am, while unapologetically shining my light.

What would make today great?

If I could put more energy towards demonstrating what I have to offer.

DAILY CHALLENGE

Let go of all that I’ve grown to love. Surrender myself to open all chakras.

Day 7:

Afternoon Stretches

What amazing things happened today?

1. I got to my destination after getting lost multiple times while driving around Cape Town without using a GPS.

2. I got the chance to get up close and personal with African Penguins at Boulder Beach.

3. I was able to use my credit cards throughout the duration of my trip without running into any serious issues.

How could I have made today even better?

If I could, I would have liked to spend more time visiting local shops to be able to provide a review for different products or services offered.

PM Meditation:

Connect with nature and the community. Be open to what the universe is trying to tell me to be able to center myself.

Evening Stretches

BONUS: What do I plan on accomplishing tomorrow?

Not being afraid to say no to things. Keep consistent with my daily rituals and routines.

That’s all for now. Keep reading, it’s good for you. Follow me tomorrow for more of the healthy stuff!

Be a Gem

Yo! It’s me again. Thank you for joining me, I’m so glad you made it! I’m glad I made it too, it has been one wild ride. Well, we made it this far. Let’s continue, shall we?

Comfort zones. Everyone has them, everyone is different. So I say — “Be the first one on the dance floor!” Growth happens outside your comfort zone. Stay alive. Keep growing.

Check it:

They say confidence is 🔑

So why you got that doubtful face

I ain’t doin this just for me

I’m here to prove it to our youth

We ain’t got nothing to loose

Just feel yourself and you will see that pleasure comes once you release, so go ahead, feel free

Be free, feel me?

Pass that groove

Do my move

Now don’t be rude

Dude, just groove

Start on the right

Girl, that shiz tight

Work it out tonight

Body fit and it’s lit to the sky high

Alright

Fiyah! So pony up and get behind her

What you waitin…

Show me what you came for

And queen, you show dem

No need for faking

Baby be a

💎

#staywild #followwildthing #wildones🐾

Today I am grateful for:

More honesty, especially about how I feel

• Avocado toast

• Soulection Radio

Morning Stretches

AM Meditation:

What is separate and different to me?

For me, empathy is one of those things that I struggle with in terms of equality and rights. I can show sympathy, but empathy isn’t as receptive. I’m not about to get into a religious or political debate, just know that there are two sides to every story. You can’t seem to win everyone over, but you can still at least try to choose your attitude.

What would make today great?

If I could travel beyond the fear-mentality that humans have created and seek to only love those I come in contact with.

DAILY CHALLENGE

Release all illusions within myself and know that everything is energy. Collective consciousness: All elements are united.

Day 6:

Afternoon Stretches

What amazing things happened today?

1. I made new friends in South Africa.

2. I received hugs from some very talented artists and realized good intentions are just that. What matters most is your impact. How you impact others is your claim to fame.

3. I found my rental car after being lost in the festival parking lot for a couple hours.

How could I have made today even better?

If I could, I would have liked to create new memories exploring and walking the streets of Cape Town. I wanted to visit the markets and connect with locals.

PM Meditation:

Embrace close-mindedness and travel outside my own comfort.

Evening Stretches

BONUS: What do I plan on accomplishing tomorrow?

Not giving up on my dreams. Remember my why and see my desires through.

Truth or dare?

TRUTH: Comment below and I’ll answer your question!

DARE: I dare you to join me tomorrow for more. You’re not ready…

Food for Thought

So what are you hungry for? Think about it…don’t tell me! 🤐

Check this out:

I dislike certain dairy products. The creamy texture, the bitter taste, just not my thing. I don’t even really like cheese — please don’t hate me. I think it’s gross. Thus, I often have to request special food when eating out.

Here’s a true story:

I’m at IHOP’s with and friend and I order a Grand Slam breakfast meal with no butter on the pancakes. Now, I know in my heart, it doesn’t matter whether I make this request or not, human error prepares me for there to be a scoop of butter on my pancakes. We do facts only here. Thank you, and please continue reading…

When the meal is delivered, sure enough, butter on the pancakes. I can easily just remove the scoop onto my napkin. But no, this time my friend threw the waitress under the buss saying, “Excuse me, she said she didn’t want butter.” My libra self would rather diffuse the situation, and keep things positive; My friend would not let this mistake slide.

The food gets sent back and returned without butter.

Nope, they just flipped over the same pancake with a scoop of butter removed from the center. Again, I have no problem eating this meal. I prefer not to waste food and I’m rather hungry at this point as I patiently watched my friend enjoy his food in the interim. He chimes in elevating the situation and demands new pancakes.

I will agree, lazy service is unwanted service and should not be tolerated. However, at what point should we accept our circumstances and simply move forward? I keep going back and forth with this complex question. How do we become better human beings?

Same thing goes for my own name. For example, Jenevieve is not a common American name. Genevieve is a name that is heard and said more often, and it is not mine. At what point do I care whether or not someone wants to get to know who I really am? Do I take the time to explain the distinction or save my energy and face the fact that my name is not easy to pronounce?

Another thing I intend on understanding further is when I hear people say, “I could never do that.” For me, I prefer to think, “I could absolutely do that, I just don’t want to try that.” Why don’t we build ourselves up instead? Why don’t we challenge our thoughts and prove how we could actually do anything we put our minds to? It sounds to me like we need more help understanding that we could never live life of great potential while seeing beauty all around us, without thinking that we actually can first. Like, we’re torn between lifestyle choice and way of natural moral human rights.

You ever started a movement before? Me either, let’s do this! You ready?

#staywild #followwildthing #wildones🐾

Today I am grateful for:

More space for transformation

• Ocean waves

• Friendly faces

Morning Stretches

AM Meditation:

What do you deny?

For me, struggles with denial come the fact that I actually make myself believe that I don’t care as much as I really do. Almost as if I can’t express feelings. Bad habit of mine I use as a defense mechanism on the regular.

What would make today great?

If I could visit a local market and sample authentic South African cuisines.

DAILY CHALLENGE

Release my denial and lies I tell to myself. Accept who I am, remember the only person who chooses my attitude is me, and move on.

Day 5: REST DAY

Afternoon Stretches

What amazing things happened today?

1. I got the chance to attend the Rocking the Daisies Festival for the first time.

2. I connected with a number of beautiful souls in the crowd.

3. I’m learning the art of patience.

How could I have made today even better?

If I could, I would have liked to make a new recipe or taken a cooking class from a chef.

PM Meditation:

Embrace local products and plant-based food for meal prep over the course of the weekend.

Evening Stretches

BONUS: What do I plan on accomplishing tomorrow?

If I could, I would like to explore somewhere new.

Yo! Catch up with me tomorrow. I will most likely be experiencing some jet lag and birthday festivities to delay my posts, so please be patient. I’m going to try to be better!

Aim High

Yo! I’m in South Africa baby!

Wow, Africa. Cape Town, South Africa. You’re beautiful.

Story time:

So I’m at LAX going through general check in because I’m a G, and I’m clean. Also, I made sure my outfit had no panty lines, no pockets, nothing to hide. But for SOME reason, the monitor shows a square of yellow near my heart and my right ankle. This gentle creature asks me in her little authoritative voice if I had any money or cell phones stored near my chest as she checks me? First off, why would money show up on the monitor, of all things? I thought they’re supposed to detect something like a weapon? My other question is, why is money or cell phone stashed in my bra something that someone who looks like me would do? Oh, because it is. Even though I’m against it, and remember I’m wearing a full body suit so you can see every curve of my body, I do know many women who tuck their phones in their bras for safe keeping. I will say this, “If we know better, we should do better.” And of course, the TA agent then had to wipe my hands, and yes, I’m still clean. Thank you for the photo op, stay up queen.

Made it through in the end and some girl complimented me on my outfit on the way out too. Win!

I wonder if I was a Crazy Rich Asian would still be treated similarly? Would I get stared at the same way? Who knows 🤷‍♀️

Aim high, then fail hard. Success comes somewhere after.

#staywild #followwildthing #wildones🐾

Today I am grateful for:

More time for learning

• Automatic cars

• Healthy snacks

Morning Stretches

AM Meditation:

What saddens you?

For me, the thought of dying alone or leaving this world without knowing a true love or being able to pass my legacy on would be pretty tragic.

What would make today great?

If I could discover different mediums of African art.

DAILY CHALLENGE

Release all the sadness and loss, to let the pain flow away

Day 4:

Afternoon Stretches

What amazing things happened today?

1. I got to drive on the left side of the road today for the first time.

2. I was able to take a nice stroll along the beach.

3. I’m learning the importance of water conservation.

How could I have made today even better?

If I could, I would have liked to spend more time creating an art project or experimenting with a different medium like fashion and film.

PM Meditation:

Embrace unique artistic perspectives and high art competence..

Evening Stretches
BONUS: What do I plan on accomplishing tomorrow?

If I could, I would like to experiment with local products and to create a plant-based healthy recipe.

Follow me tomorrow for the latest from the Rocking the Daisies Music Festival!